More on letting go

Letting go seems to be the theme of my life these days. Just when I think I'm going to jump out of my skin because I'm stressed over something, I remember I'm not in charge. Most of the time, there is very little I can do in a particular situation other than lend love and support. In one instance, I lent my organizational skills to a friend, but realized once things were organized, it was up to my friend to keep them that way. She refused any further assistance.

Growing up in the household I did, where chaos, fighting, and anger reigned, I desperately wanted and needed to control my environment. So we assume responsibility for things that are not ours, like wanting to fix my parents' bad marriage, thinking it was my fault in the first place.

Learning what is my responsibility and what isn't has been a lifelong lesson. And taking on responsibility for others only leads to grief and heartache. We're responsible for our children's health, well-being and safety, but the ultimate goal is to teach them how to be responsible for themselves. Knowing when to let go is key. I am hereby letting go of assuming any responsibility for anyone's life but my own. I will put into practice being the most loving Karen I can be with friends and family. That's all any of us can do.

What are you holding on to? Is it time to let go?
Blessings,
karen